Family is the centre of life in Nepal. Understanding a few customs helps visitors read situations and connect with people.
Quick answer: Many Nepalis grow up in joint families, with grandparents, parents and children under one roof. Elders are deeply respected: they are greeted first and served first. People use kinship terms even for strangers: dai (older brother), didi (older sister), bhai (younger brother), bahini (younger sister), buwa/ama for older people. Using them is friendly and polite.
Respect and greetings
- Greet with namaste; to elders, a slight bow.
- Younger people may touch elders' feet at festivals for blessings.
- Use "tapai" (polite "you") with people you don't know.
Hospitality
"Atithi devo bhava": the guest is like a god. Expect tea, food and many questions about your family, age, job and marriage. These are friendly, not intrusive. See dining etiquette.
Festivals bring families together
At Dashain, people travel across the country to receive tika from elders. At Tihar, sisters honour brothers on Bhai Tika.
Changing times
Urbanisation and work abroad mean more nuclear families in cities, and grandparents raising children in villages. Video calls keep families connected across continents.
See village life and Nepali phrases.